What is love? What is sacrifice? Those questions have been on my mind a lot these past few weeks. Is it possible to fall out of love with someone? If we are capable of falling out of love; then were we truly in love in the first place?
Many questions have plagued my waking moments, so I’ve come to several conclusions. Oh to be loved is magnificent, to feel like someone has put you above everything else, prioritized you. But not all of us have a sacrificial love for someone, it’s more of a selfish love. A love where we ask ourselves, what can they do for us? We’re constantly thinking about the ways that person can love us, do things for us, and we seek to gain something out of the relationship.
Love by definition means a profoundly tender, passionate affection for someone which usually results in sacrifices. Oh how easy it is for us to forget the last part of the definition. I don’t think I believe in true love, I think we have the choice of whom we love. But I believe that things happen for a reason, that life brings certain people together that are right for each other. It just depends on whether they make the choice to be together. However, if you believe in true love, then please, by all means continue to do so, as belief is a powerful tool.
I’ve found throughout my life that to love someone is easy, but to stay in love is harder. Love is something that must be worked out. Does it sound easy to give up your career and move for your loved ones career? Does it sounds easy to let go of things to better your loved ones life? It’s not easy loving someone the way one should love, but that doesn’t mean we should give up. It means we should push on until we learn how to love with sacrifice, adoration, and tenderness. Putting another persons interest above our own defies human nature. Love defies human nature sometimes, and once we get over that selfish desire, we truly find ourselves. We find ourselves in a spacious garden where love can grow and the weeds can not suffocate it.